Green Woman seems like a good place to start this journey. Mom
and I going into this after about a month of discussion and research. We're doing this deliberately, carefully and we have to tools to make sure that we're making things better, not worse.
About six months ago mom was diagnosed with high blood
pressure. She just turned 87 and has never had a problem. And it’s the systolic
that’s high; her diastolic was and is in normal range. Some research on the net
gave us information that this is a common side effect to aging. Like the rest
of your body your arteries just aren’t as flexible as they used to be. But,
what the hey. Doc puts her on one medication. Doesn't like the results; adds a
second drug. Doesn't like those results and ADDS A THIRD.
In the meantime, my 87 going on 80 pretty darn sharp for her
age mother is turning into a zombie. Even her friends start to notice. “You’re
not the Kathryn I know.” The weakness in her left leg is getting worse, her
balance is off and she’s having muscle cramps at night. Just for info, I’ve
been the same doctor in the past and discussing side effects is like talking to
a brick wall. I’ve been using herbs and getting reasonable results given that
my knees are shot and I haven’t been watching my diet very well. That’s going
to change.
I don’t’ pay much attention to Dr. Oz but there was an article in the local paper a
couple of months ago on the benefits of adding high potassium foods to your
diet to help control blood pressure. I check the indications on mom’s RX and
low and behold she’s being told to watch her potassium intake. As in don’t take
too much. (head slap, forehead hitting desk) Here’s something that can help you
not need so many drugs and you’re being told not to take it. Meantime mom’s
getting foggier (depression is a possible side effect of two of the drugs along
with muscle cramps and balance problems) all the time. This is a gal who has
had a few problems with her back but didn’t need cane to get around the fucking
house for cryin’ out loud and the only thing she’s been taking regularly is
generic Prilosec.
Ok. Best herbal compounds I can find? Check. Tai Chi DVD’s
dusted off? Check. New arm cuff that will fit her so she can use my monitor?
Check. Wrist cuff as back up and for me to use too? Check. Excel spreadsheet to keep track. Check My
trusty, dusty copy of Laurel’s
Kitchen with the very readable nutrition charts in the back? Check. Does it
list potassium levels? Check, check, check. Do dried beans, nuts, brown rice,
other grains and Swiss chard suddenly look absolutely delicious? Damn straight.
Funny, what you won’t do for yourself, you’ll fall all over yourself to do for
someone you love.
Do I want to keep my mom around as long as possible? Of
course. But, not if she’s miserable and she was. This is a gal who faced going
to work when dad was disabled and she did it with style. This is a gal who
loves to play in the dirt. And she’s telling me she doesn't know why she’s
still around. “Danger Will Robinson. Danger” And I can't help wondering how many older men and women are in her position without backup. Falling, breaking something or being written off with what looks like approaching senility and it's the American Way of Medicine instead.
Ok. Third day off the drugs. Fog is already lifting. Balance
is improving. We’ll keep an eye on that left leg. At least if she does finally
have to go to that neurologist for it we can be pretty sure it’s actually a
physical problem and not side effects of the drugs.
